8 ways to keep the flame burning in your relationship


Virtually every relationship starts out the same way—you can’t keep your hands off each other, you get excited at the mere thought of them, you love all of the same things, and you never have disagreements.

Then, suddenly, it all changes. You no longer want to have sex every day, you crave space, and you realize that not everything is perfect. Yes, the honeymoon is over. But what if there was a way to embrace this new phase of your relationship while keeping the spark alive?

Just because the honeymoon is over doesn’t mean your relationship has to be.

Here are the eight ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship long after the honeymoon stage is over:

1. Put your phone down.

Being present when you’re spending time with your partner can make a world of a difference to a relationship. Next time you are together, put your phones away and really appreciate being in each other’s company. The disconnection from the outside world will leave room for an even greater connection between the two of you.

2. Make time for a date night.

No matter how busy your schedules are, it is important to always make room for a date night. It is all too easy to become complacent in a relationship and fall into a routine where you neglect to make the relationship exciting. Dating should be a part of every relationship no matter how long you’ve been together. So try setting aside at least one day a week where you rediscover the fun of dating with your partner.

3. Be adventurous together.

Trying something new together is a great way to keep the spark alive. Whether you explore a new hobby, or travel to a new destination, it is something that you can look forward to together

4. Try new things sexually.

If you feel like you and your partner are getting bored with your sex life, spice things up a little by trying something new. Whether you introduce dressing up and role-playing into the relationship or explore other sources of pleasure, it is important to communicate with your partner about what may be exciting for the both of you

5. Surprise each other.

Bring her flowers once in while without reason or write a sweet note for him and tuck it away into his briefcase or car so that he stumbles upon it when he least expects it. Although flowers and sweet notes may not seem like huge gestures, it will put a big smile on your partner’s face and remind them just how lucky they are to be in such a loving relationship.

6. Appreciate one another.

Show your partner you’re grateful for them by verbally expressing what you love about them as frequently as you can. By showing your love and appreciation through words and actions, it will also constantly remind you why you fell in love with them in the first place.

7. Miss each other.

It’s perfectly OK to go on a trip with your friends or do a girls’ or boys’ night to give each other the opportunity to miss each other. Time apart is a healthy element of a relationship and will leave you wanting more of them.

8. Have fun together.

Most importantly, never forget to have fun with each other. Goof around, playfully tease one another, go out with all of your friends, and just enjoy each other’s company. In a solid relationship your partner will always be your best friend, so it’s important not to neglect that.